"Relationships are like glass. Sometimes it's better to leave them broken than try to hurt yourself putting it back together."
Have you been through an instance where a loved one said certain heart piercing statements? Something so bad that it literally broke your heart and you could never quite put the pieces back? In today's time, where relationship break at the blink of an eye, it comes as no surprise to me that 99% of people that I've met have borne the brunt of broken relationships. Be it with their boyfriends or girlfriends or even with their friends or loved ones, we all are living with the painful baggage of our past.
So what do we do about it? Why is it that long after the relationship is over we still seem to be carrying the memories around? When people say I'm over the past, do they really mean it? Do we really forget the past and move ahead? People say time is the best healer. Is it really? I don't think so. The truth is we can never forget the painful instances in life. As time passes we just learn to live life with them and eventually these events become such inseparable parts of our life that they do not hurt as much as they used to before. Unfortunately our subconscious doesn't let go of it and we are time and again reminded of the past for the pain it put us through or the important lessons it taught us. It's up to us how we would want to remember them.
When bad things happen we all say that it happens for a reason and for the best. I'm sure it happens for a reason but not quite sure whether it happens for the best. Broken relationship can have damaging effects on one's mind. When you love someone unconditionally and the same person hurts you, how then do you handle it? People sometimes try to sort out the issues and continue with the relationship. Each time you patch up after a fight a part of the relationship is lost till the time there is nothing left of it. Millions of people still carry on with such relationships because they don't seem to be able to part with their loved ones. The best advice here would be to end it and move on. But its easier said than done.
Why is it that relationship break? One reason could be lack of compatibility, but is it the only? I don't think so. I feel people are becoming really self centered of late. It's always 'me' and not 'we' No wonder the break up rate is high. If there is no 'we' or 'us' how is the relationship going to grow? One needs to devote time and nurture the relationship for it to grow. Will an ignored seed ever flourish into a full grown beautiful tree full of flowers and fruits? The beautiful trees are now taken over by thorns.
You know,there is a lot that can be done to save those special relationship. Proper and timely communications is one of them. No one is a mind reader here. Speak out and convey your thoughts, feels, views, like and dislikes to the people around.All this while keeping in mind the feelings of the people around. Have a clear and transparent conversation. Respect others opinions. If you've had an argument and have sorted it out, do not keep bringing it up time after time as it'll only add to the bitterness. If sometime bothers you, speak about it. Bottling up anger is the biggest enemy of any relationship as when it busts all you have are 'scattered pieces', something that you can never put together again.
Sometimes we do not realize how lucky we are to have certain people in our life. When we have them around we do not value them. It's only when we lose them do we realize what we've lost. A lot of times we tend to love only those people who hurt us and hurt those people who love us. It's ok to have people who do not love or care about you because you can never lose something that you never had, and you never had these people in your life in the first place so why cry over the loss and shun the existing lovely people from our lives?
So pull up your socks. Embrace the special people in your life. Think before you take drastic steps. Do not cry over people who do not matter. It's time you have some clear glasses in your life so that the "scattered pieces" from the past don't prick too much!
So what do we do about it? Why is it that long after the relationship is over we still seem to be carrying the memories around? When people say I'm over the past, do they really mean it? Do we really forget the past and move ahead? People say time is the best healer. Is it really? I don't think so. The truth is we can never forget the painful instances in life. As time passes we just learn to live life with them and eventually these events become such inseparable parts of our life that they do not hurt as much as they used to before. Unfortunately our subconscious doesn't let go of it and we are time and again reminded of the past for the pain it put us through or the important lessons it taught us. It's up to us how we would want to remember them.
When bad things happen we all say that it happens for a reason and for the best. I'm sure it happens for a reason but not quite sure whether it happens for the best. Broken relationship can have damaging effects on one's mind. When you love someone unconditionally and the same person hurts you, how then do you handle it? People sometimes try to sort out the issues and continue with the relationship. Each time you patch up after a fight a part of the relationship is lost till the time there is nothing left of it. Millions of people still carry on with such relationships because they don't seem to be able to part with their loved ones. The best advice here would be to end it and move on. But its easier said than done.
Why is it that relationship break? One reason could be lack of compatibility, but is it the only? I don't think so. I feel people are becoming really self centered of late. It's always 'me' and not 'we' No wonder the break up rate is high. If there is no 'we' or 'us' how is the relationship going to grow? One needs to devote time and nurture the relationship for it to grow. Will an ignored seed ever flourish into a full grown beautiful tree full of flowers and fruits? The beautiful trees are now taken over by thorns.
You know,there is a lot that can be done to save those special relationship. Proper and timely communications is one of them. No one is a mind reader here. Speak out and convey your thoughts, feels, views, like and dislikes to the people around.All this while keeping in mind the feelings of the people around. Have a clear and transparent conversation. Respect others opinions. If you've had an argument and have sorted it out, do not keep bringing it up time after time as it'll only add to the bitterness. If sometime bothers you, speak about it. Bottling up anger is the biggest enemy of any relationship as when it busts all you have are 'scattered pieces', something that you can never put together again.
Sometimes we do not realize how lucky we are to have certain people in our life. When we have them around we do not value them. It's only when we lose them do we realize what we've lost. A lot of times we tend to love only those people who hurt us and hurt those people who love us. It's ok to have people who do not love or care about you because you can never lose something that you never had, and you never had these people in your life in the first place so why cry over the loss and shun the existing lovely people from our lives?
So pull up your socks. Embrace the special people in your life. Think before you take drastic steps. Do not cry over people who do not matter. It's time you have some clear glasses in your life so that the "scattered pieces" from the past don't prick too much!
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